Online dating has been in the scene for quite some time, dating as far back as 1995. Match.com—the world’s first online dating site—was born in that said year. And with the way things are rolling now (with the pandemic still existing), it’s a thing that’s here to stay.
While it can’t compare to the thrill of face-to-face meetups, online dating’s still a worthy endeavor. Just get a device of your choice (PC or phone, whatever floats your boat) and visit a credible site. And fortunately for you, there are plenty of legit sites that are ready for users to use.
Are you a stranger to online dating? That’s okay—there’s always a first time for everything. Allow us to be your guide in this strange and unpredictable world.
#1: Take your time
Online dating isn’t a contest! You shouldn’t rush into things because guess what: love doesn’t happen overnight. The One isn’t a person that grows on trees, so learn to be patient.
And with that, take your sweet time to fill out your profile.
Choose an impressive profile picture that follows your chosen site’s standards. Write a short bio that makes matches stop, stare, and stay. Just make sure it doesn’t give away everything about you—a little mystery is healthy. Please don’t put any misleading information that’ll turn potential matches away from you; don’t fake it ‘til you make it!
#2: Don’t put all your eggs in one basket
Before we go any further, we’ll make ourselves clear: we don’t and won’t encourage cheating! If you’ve found a match you’re ready to commit to, stick to that person and that person only. Talking to many people on sites is only acceptable if you’re SINGLE.
The reason multiple dating apps exist is to open users to more options. If you’re not in a relationship, why limit yourself to one platform? Install another one to increase your chances! Keeping your options open allows you to meet more people. And the more people you bump into, the more you’ll learn what you truly want out of a match.
#3: Watch your words
Words are pretty powerful things. Before you press “Send,” please check yourself before you wreck yourself. You may send something you can’t take back. And as much as you try to delete what you said, remember: the internet is undefeated. Screenshots exist, and you don’t want to be the subject of an incriminating one.
Choosing your words doesn’t require you to be a Pulitzer Prize candidate. It just takes common sense while letting your natural self come through. Don’t beat around the bush and mince words to sound intellectual. Shorter messages pack more punches and go straight to the point.
#4: Get a friend to join you
Don’t want to be alone? Get a friend involved! Just make sure that friend is single and ready to mingle as well. You don’t want a Debby Downer with you for the ride, do you?
It’s nice to have someone along for the crazy roller coaster that is online dating. A friend you can count on is the best companion through good and bad times. That way, you won’t have to wallow in embarrassment or celebrate in joy all by yourself. And since hundreds of millions of people worldwide are on the online dating bandwagon, you definitely won’t feel alone.
#5: Open your mind
We’ve heard this cliche more times than our fingers can count. However, there’s a good reason for that: being open-minded still works! Since there are hundreds of millions of online daters, you’ll never know who you’ll bump into. And sometimes, the people you encounter may not be your cup of tea.
Meeting different people, as we said earlier, lets you know what you really want. And although everyone has specific types and preferences, some of them may change over time as you talk to fellow singles. Let’s say you’re a good girl who prefers good boys, and you happen to meet a bad boy online that you want to resist. Don’t be surprised if you end up falling for the latter as you two get to know each other!
#6: Don’t be afraid to take control
If things are getting stale or your date is a bit of a nervous wreck, don’t hesitate to take the lead. You don’t have to force your date to do something; gently initiate actions and decisions to keep things running.
If things don’t work out, don’t stress too much about it! Not every date will be a home run, and you shouldn’t pressure yourself into making sure each one is perfect. Treat bad dates as learning experiences so you’ll know what to avoid in the future. Also, they make for great stories you can laugh about eventually. And speaking of bad dates. . .
#7: Don’t get too disappointed
Did a match ghost you? Boring date? That’s alright. With so much fish in the sea, you’re bound to encounter bad ones swimming around. Sometimes, they even sting. Even the most handsome faces aren’t always the greatest catch in your net. Watch out for those people next time!
You know what they say about experience—they’re the world’s best teachers. Sure, reality hitting you in the face isn’t sexy, but it’s necessary. Don’t lose hope despite the stinkers. Besides, what else are you on dating sites for if you don’t have at least a little hope of finding romance on the internet?
#8: It’s okay to hit the pause (or stop) button
By now, you’ll learn that online dating isn’t sunshine and rainbows 24/7. You’ll come across fishy people with equally scummy intentions from time to time, and that can be pretty draining. If you’re feeling worn out, it’s okay to put your phone down and hit the pause button.
Love, much like life, is a marathon—not a sprint. Don’t succumb to any kind of pressure (whether peer or internal) just for the sake of having some arm candy. If you’re not having fun, we totally get it if you want to lay low for a while.
Online dating should be a fun experience! If not, you’re probably doing it wrong. You may need thick skin to survive, but that shouldn’t stop you from enjoying yourself and the person you’re talking to. Even if that person isn’t The One, what matters is that you had a great time with them with little to no regrets.
Don’t let online dating horror stories (not the Halloween kind, to be clear) scare you away from that world. You’ll find great matches and not-so-great ones as you swipe and scroll away. Good luck and have fun!
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